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Reconciliation isn’t required, just forgiveness

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Ephesians 4:32 says, Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

The word forgiveness or illustrations of the act appear in the Old and New Testament repeatedly. It’s at the heart of the gospel.

God loves us completely, but in his perfectness, he will not allow sin in his presence and instead, will punish it. Our sin separates us from God, but he wants us with him.

That’s why he sent Jesus to die and take the punishment meant for our sin so that, through faith in Christ and repentance of our sin, there is a way to be forgiven and allowed in the Father’s presence.

When we truly understand what Jesus did for us, the instructions from that verse in Ephesians becomes very powerful.

We’re to forgive others the way Jesus forgave us. That’s not saying we have to give our lives for someone; it’s saying those who have become Christians have to be willing to forgive others whether we think they deserve it or not.

We’ve been forgiven for sins and there’s nothing we’re expected to do to make up for it other than put our trust in Jesus.

It’s freely given to us no matter what it is we did wrong. So, we are asked to forgive others.

The rodeo judge who always marks you at least a point lower because he didn’t like when we argued with him once two years ago about his judging, yes, he’s in the wrong; but that’s sin he needs to deal with through repentance and Jesus.

Our job is to forgive.

You leave money in your wallet on a bucket in your trailer that goes missing. You find out it was another team roper that stole it while you were warming up your horse.

It isn’t wrong to get the money back, and it isn’t wrong to call the law if that’s what you think needs to be done, but our job is to forgive.

You’re suspicious about some marks on your horse’s flank that the trainer explains away. You don’t buy it, get there early the next time and catch him beating your problem horse with a board.

Of course you’re going to be angry, but as you haul your horse away, you forgive.

When we’re forgiven of our sins through Jesus, we’re reconciled with God. There can be consequences for our sins here on the earth, but God no longer holds it against us or punishes us.

Reconciliation isn’t being required in Ephesians, just forgiveness.

While reconciliation is important and taught in scripture, it isn’t a necessary part of forgiveness to maintain a connection with the person who sinned against us.

When you catch the trainer abusing your horse, you must forgive him but why on earth would you ever let him touch your horse again?

You don’t forget what he did, but you forgive, let it go and move on as best you can.

Scott Hilgendorff is the pastor for Cowboys of the Cross, a rodeo/bullriding ministry that leads cowboy church services and makes disciples of the ranch/rodeo community online through cowboysofthecross.com.